“Love is or it ain’t. Thin love ain’t love at all.”

You are your best thing.

I didn’t want to speak for black people. I wanted to speak to and to be among. It’s us.

I’ve spent my entire writing life trying to make sure that the white gaze was not the dominant one in any of my books.

Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined.

Lonely was much better than alone.

Anything dead coming back to life hurts.

I type in one place, but I write all over the house.

There is an incredible amount of magic and feistiness in black men that nobody has been able to wipe out. But everybody has tried.

Writing is really a way of thinking–not just feeling but thinking about things that are disparate, unresolved, mysterious, problematic or just sweet.

There is really nothing more to say-except why. But since why is difficult to handle, one must take refuge in how.

I get angry about things, then go on and work.

When there is pain, there are no words. All pain is the same.

As you enter positions of trust and power, dream a little before you think.

You need a whole community to raise a child. I have raised two children, alone.

You are your own stories.

I don’t think one parent can raise a child. I don’t think two parents can raise a child. You really need the whole village.

At some point, everyone faces the same challenge on the journey of self-improvement: you have to fall in love with boredom.

I’m gonna make love to you like fifteen men.

Now, occasionally I will still have that quarter pounder because I love fast food, but you have to keep it to a minimum.

My goal should never be to raise kids that make me look good. (Oh but how my flesh craves this!) My goal should be to raise kids who love God and spend their lives making His goodness known in their corner of the world.

And if it ends today, know that it was without a doubt, always you.

Gather up In the arms of your love—Those who expect No love from above.

Love not what you are but only what you may become.

But for failing love on our part, therefore is all our travail.