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There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)

Irvin D. Yalom

Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
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Enslave Entourage Jealousy Marriage Possession Spirit
This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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Awareness Began Brought Come Confrontation Death Due Existential Experience Increase Preciousness Think
Reality always creeps in–the reality of our helplessness and our mortality; the reality that, despite our reach for the stars, a creaturely fate awaits us.
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Always Creep Experience Helplessness Indeed Morality Reality
Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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Between Difference Fall Infinite Love Passion People Spark Stand
What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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Country Emest Game never People Person Real Said Therapist Think
Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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Accident Existence Let Life Plan Possession
It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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Aware Death East Every Face Moment Much Not Only Stand Stare Sun Terror Try
There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Behind Borderline Label People Treat Violence
The more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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Anxiety Creator Death Like More Unlive
The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Allow Each Emphasize Group InterAction Limit Patient Safer Set Therapist
Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.
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Important Pathology People Relationship Student Teach Work
Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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Absorbed Being Distinction Heidegger Make Thing Way World
We project ourselves into the future through our children; we grow rich, famous, ever larger; we develop compulsive protective rituals; or we embrace an impregnable belief in an ultimate rescuer.
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Belief Children Compulsive Develop Ever Famous Future Grow Large Mpregnable Ourselves Project Protective Rescuer Rich Ritual Through Ultimate
If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
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Death First Learn Live Living Must One
My hunch is yes. It would certainly do something for those who are most ruthless, who tend to make others most miserable.
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Certain Hunch Make Miserable Mist Most Ruthless Something Trend
Life as a therapist is a life of service in which we daily transcend our personal wishes and turn our gaze toward the needs and growth of the other.
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Gaze Growth Life Need Personal Service Therapist Towards Transcend Wish

There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)

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There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)

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