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Book tours are super hard for me as a raging introvert. I love humanity, but actual humans are hard for me. So something like a book tour – where I’m constantly on the road – scares the hell out of me.

Glennon Doyle

One of the reasons we stay so alone in our lives is because we’re ashamed to talk about the hard stuff. It’s as simple as that. We’re all in pain in different ways, and we don’t get the help we need because we’re too ashamed to talk about the pain.
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Alone Different Lives Oneself Pain Reason Shame Simplicity Stay Way
Questions are like gifts – it’s the thought behind them that the receiver really feels. We have to know the receiver to give the right gift and to ask the right question. Generic gifts and questions are all right, but personal gifts and questions feel better.
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Feeling Gift Right
Sometimes the rewards of risk don’t leave us wrecked. Sometimes we find our passion, our purpose, courage, connection, and comfort. Every good thing in our lives is a direct result of risk.
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Comfortable Connection Courage Goodness Leaving Life Ourselves Passion Purpose Result Reward Risk
When people express opinions that differ from yours, take it as a chance to grow. Seek to understand over being understood. Be curious, not defensive. The only way to disarm another human being is by listening.
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Defeat Expression Human Listening Opinion People Understand Yourself
I’m not big on faith rules, but if I had to choose one, it would be that every person must choose a faith issue upon which to hang her hat that requires her to change – not somebody else.
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Change Choice Faith Myself Person Rule
Life is a conversation. Make it a good one.
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Goodness Inspirational Life
We’re told that to be successful girls, we have to be small and quiet. Yet to be successful humans, we have to become big and have a voice. There’s an inherent contradiction.
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Human Quiet Success Voice Woman
We are – each and every one of us – unlearning misogyny. It’s going to take some time. But be aware and active of your prejudices. Notice when they kick in and resist. Fight to stay soft and open. Step back and squint hard.
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Fight Learning Oneself Resistance Stay Time
The fact that we define ourselves by our roles can be an admirable thing – it’s how we build a life and make a living. But it’s also precarious. Roles change. Sometimes overnight.
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Change Life Live Night Ourselves Role
We are all trained by Disney to believe that the wedding is the finish line, but the wedding is just another starting line. In light of this fact, we should quit the huge, fancy, debt-inducing weddings.
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Believe Line Marriage Money Quit Start Training
To me, full-time mothering felt like way too much and yet not nearly enough. Lost in a landslide of diapers, birthday parties, and others’ needs, I ached to reestablish myself.
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Enough Establishment Lost Mom Myself Pain Time
When we shrug and say we don’t care, it’s usually a lie. Every girl cares. We’ve just been taught not to expose ourselves by showing it. What the world needs now is girls and women who aren’t afraid to care – who are done saying, ‘Whatever.’
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Afraid Care Girl Lie Need Ourselves Women World
Being a mother is a little like ‘Groundhog’s Day.’ It’s getting out of bed and doing the exact same things again and again and yet again – and it’s watching it all get undone again and again and yet again. It’s humbling, monotonous, mind-numbing, and solitary.
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Bed Humble Mom Solitude Time
When folks decide they love any institution more than the individual souls inside them, they’re missing the mark.
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Decision Love Missing People Soul
If no pain, then no love. If no darkness, no light. If no risk, then no reward. It’s all or nothing. In this damn world, it’s all or nothing.
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Darkness Light Love Pain Reward Risk World
It makes no sense to me that my gay friends cannot get married to each other because a certain slice of Christianity doesn’t believe in gay marriage.
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Believe Friendship Marriage Myself Oppression Religion
My greatest fear is that I’ll fail my kids.
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Children Failure Fear Greatness Myself
A safe life includes following your dreams with the full knowledge that doing so is not, in any way, shape or form, safe in the traditional meaning of the word. Because living safely means dying without too many regrets. That is safe.
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Death Dream Knowledge Live Regret Safety
I am not, at the end of the day, a mother, a wife, a writer, an activist, a friend. I am a child of God. That’s who I was when I came into this world and who I’ll be when I leave it. No one can take that from me.
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End Friendship Leaving Mom Myself Wife World Writing
Rock bottom is a crisis. And everyone wants to avoid crisis. But what ‘crisis’ means literally is ‘to sift’ – like a child who goes to the beach, lifts up the sand, and watches all the sand fall away, hoping that there’s treasure left over. That’s what crisis does.
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Avoid Children Fall Growth Hard Time Hope Misery
When in doubt, I choose love above any particular ideas offered to me about faith.
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Choice Doubt Faith Ideas Love Myself
Often, we need to ignore the words people say and attend to their underlying, urgent, life or death questions: Am I valuable? Am I loved? The great thing is that the answer is easy: Yes! The answer is always yes. We don’t have to think too hard.
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Death Greatness Ignorance Life Love Need People Thinking Value Word
It is suggested to us a million times a day that our bodies are projects. They aren’t. Our lives are. Our spirituality is. Our relationships are. Our work is.
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Body Live Ourselves Relationship Spirituality Time
I used to choose friends based on similarity in age and life stage, but I’ve learned that those were the wrong criteria. Trying to live life exclusively alongside others our own age is like attempting to climb Mt. Everest without a Sherpa. It’s a little dangerous.
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Age Dangerous Friendship Life Live Myself Wrong
We can be shiny and perfect and admired, or we can be real and honest and vulnerable and loved. But we actually do have to choose.
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Honesty Love Perfection Reality Vulnerable
Do not measure your marriage by how much love you feel today: measure it by how much love you’ve offered today.
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Feeling Love Marriage Yourself
I know how I like my house. I like it cute and cozy and a little funky, and I like it to feel lived in and worn, and I like the things inside of it to work. That’s all. And for me, it’s fine that my house’s interior suggests that I might not spend every waking moment thinking about how it looks.
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Appearance Feeling Home Moments Myself Thinking Wake Up

Book tours are super hard for me as a raging introvert. I love humanity, but actual humans are hard for me. So something like a book tour – where I’m constantly on the road – scares the hell out of me.

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Book tours are super hard for me as a raging introvert. I love humanity, but actual humans are hard for me. So something like a book tour – where I’m constantly on the road – scares the hell out of me.

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