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When folks decide they love any institution more than the individual souls inside them, they’re missing the mark.

Glennon Doyle

My greatest fear is that I’ll fail my kids.
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Children Failure Fear Greatness Myself
Integrity means there is not a real-life you and an internet you. The two are one and the same. If you’re not kind on the Internet, you’re not kind.
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Fake Integrity Internet Kind Life Reality Yourself
Habits are learned. And children learn their habits by watching what we do, not by listening to what we say. So we have to stop talking and teaching and preaching and just go do.
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Habit Learning Ourselves Stop Talk
Brave’ is very specific and extremely personal. Sometimes brave means letting everyone else think you’re a coward. Sometimes brave is letting everyone else down but yourself.
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Brave Deep Thinking Wisdom Yourself
Love is kind, right? It’s not about calling someone out on every little thing you feel.
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Feeling Kind Love Right Yourself
Do not measure your marriage by how much love you feel today: measure it by how much love you’ve offered today.
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Feeling Love Marriage Yourself
I wrote in my first book that I was broken, and now it just makes me mad every time. This is why writing words in books is so precarious. This is why Jesus only wrote in the sand, right? I just – I hate that I wrote that.
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Book Hate Heart Broken Mad Myself Time Writing
The closer you get to people who are different than you, the more you learn that we’re all same.
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Different Learning People Yourself
It is suggested to us a million times a day that our bodies are projects. They aren’t. Our lives are. Our spirituality is. Our relationships are. Our work is.
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Body Live Ourselves Relationship Spirituality Time
Rock bottom is a crisis. And everyone wants to avoid crisis. But what ‘crisis’ means literally is ‘to sift’ – like a child who goes to the beach, lifts up the sand, and watches all the sand fall away, hoping that there’s treasure left over. That’s what crisis does.
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Avoid Children Fall Growth Hard Time Hope Misery
One of the reasons we stay so alone in our lives is because we’re ashamed to talk about the hard stuff. It’s as simple as that. We’re all in pain in different ways, and we don’t get the help we need because we’re too ashamed to talk about the pain.
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Alone Different Lives Oneself Pain Reason Shame Simplicity Stay Way
Young people: marry simply, start your life, and party later. Think of how much babysitting for your future colicky baby you could buy with that wedding budget. Think of how much marriage therapy you could buy. Invest in your marriage, not your wedding.
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Investment Life Marriage Money People Simplicity Start Therapy Thinking Young Yourself
I used to choose friends based on similarity in age and life stage, but I’ve learned that those were the wrong criteria. Trying to live life exclusively alongside others our own age is like attempting to climb Mt. Everest without a Sherpa. It’s a little dangerous.
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Age Dangerous Friendship Life Live Myself Wrong
When people express opinions that differ from yours, take it as a chance to grow. Seek to understand over being understood. Be curious, not defensive. The only way to disarm another human being is by listening.
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Defeat Expression Human Listening Opinion People Understand Yourself
Often, we need to ignore the words people say and attend to their underlying, urgent, life or death questions: Am I valuable? Am I loved? The great thing is that the answer is easy: Yes! The answer is always yes. We don’t have to think too hard.
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Death Greatness Ignorance Life Love Need People Thinking Value Word
The fact that we define ourselves by our roles can be an admirable thing – it’s how we build a life and make a living. But it’s also precarious. Roles change. Sometimes overnight.
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Change Life Live Night Ourselves Role
We’re told that to be successful girls, we have to be small and quiet. Yet to be successful humans, we have to become big and have a voice. There’s an inherent contradiction.
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Human Quiet Success Voice Woman
I realized I didn’t just want to parent children in my own little home but to mother the whole world. What’s the point of gaining influence if you’re not going to use it?
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Children Home Mom Myself Parents World Yourself
Being a mother is a little like ‘Groundhog’s Day.’ It’s getting out of bed and doing the exact same things again and again and yet again – and it’s watching it all get undone again and again and yet again. It’s humbling, monotonous, mind-numbing, and solitary.
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Bed Humble Mom Solitude Time
Life is not safe, and so our task is not to promise our kids there will be no turbulence. It’s to assure them that when the turbulence comes, we will all hold hands and get through it together.
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Children Hands Life Ourselves Promise Safety Togetherness
Making sensible family rules around cell phones and driving is a way to love yourself, your marriage, your children, and the world well.
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Children Family Love Marriage Phone Rule World Yourself
It makes no sense to me that my gay friends cannot get married to each other because a certain slice of Christianity doesn’t believe in gay marriage.
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Believe Friendship Marriage Myself Oppression Religion
Book tours are super hard for me as a raging introvert. I love humanity, but actual humans are hard for me. So something like a book tour – where I’m constantly on the road – scares the hell out of me.
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Book Hell Humanity Love Myself Road Scare
We are – each and every one of us – unlearning misogyny. It’s going to take some time. But be aware and active of your prejudices. Notice when they kick in and resist. Fight to stay soft and open. Step back and squint hard.
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Fight Learning Oneself Resistance Stay Time
We can be shiny and perfect and admired, or we can be real and honest and vulnerable and loved. But we actually do have to choose.
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Honesty Love Perfection Reality Vulnerable
Many of us spend the first part of our adult lives becoming – stepping into the roles we take on so that they come to define our lives. But I’ve learned that we don’t really grow up until we unbecome.
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Growth Live Ourselves Role Wisdom
Sometimes the rewards of risk don’t leave us wrecked. Sometimes we find our passion, our purpose, courage, connection, and comfort. Every good thing in our lives is a direct result of risk.
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Comfortable Connection Courage Goodness Leaving Life Ourselves Passion Purpose Result Reward Risk

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