You have a right to be angry with the perpetrator, regardless of who it was, how long ago the sexual abuse occurred, or how much he/she has changed.
BEVERLY ENGELWe have been told and feel that we are responsible for their emotional well-being. We are not. We are responsible only for ourselves.
More Beverly Engel Quotes
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Positive and powerful: It’s more important what I think of me than what someone else thinks of me.
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The more you face the truth, the angrier you will probably become. You have a right to be angry about being sexually abused.
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With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism, and accusations slowly eat away at the victim’s self-esteem until he or she is incapable of judging a situation realistically.
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He or she may begin to believe that there is something wrong with them or even fear they are losing their mind. They have become so beaten down emotionally that they blame themselves for the abuse.
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They often become frightened whenever they feel anything intensely, be it anger, pain, fear, or even love and joy. They fear their emotions will consume them or make them crazy.
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Accepting that your imperfections and so-called negative attributes are part of what makes you unique will help you to stop continually trying to be someone or something that you are not.
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It is far more important to know myself and take care of myself than it is to look good to others.
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We have been told and feel that we are responsible for their emotional well-being. We are not. We are responsible only for ourselves.
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Critical words to a child are as painful and damaging as being physically hit. They are verbal slaps in the face.
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There are many types of emotional abuse but most is done in an attempt to control or subjugate another person.
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Over time, this type of abuse eats away at your self-confidence and sense of self-worth, undermining any good feelings you have about yourself and about your accomplishments .
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Usually, critical words are accompanied by threats, name-calling, and yelling. This verbal abuse can be especially damaging.
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Emotional abuse is like brainwashing in that it systematically wears away at the victim’s self-confidence, sense of self, trust in her perceptions and self-concept.
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Positive and powerful: Sometimes people won’t like me, and it’s okay. Positive and powerful: I like me, and that’s all that matters.
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Strong Women stand up for themselves and make it abundantly clear that they will not tolerate the abuse. If this doesn’t work, they walk away.
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