Beverly Engel on self
Beverly Engel17 quotes“With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism, and accusations slowly eat away at the victim’s self-esteem until he or she is incapable of judging a situation realistically.”
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There are many types of emotional abuse but most is done in an attempt to control or subjugate another person.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Emotional abuse is like brainwashing in that it systematically wears away at the victim’s self-confidence, sense of self, trust in her perceptions and self-concept.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel You have a right to be angry with the perpetrator, regardless of who it was, how long ago the sexual abuse occurred, or how much he/she has changed.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Critical words to a child are as painful and damaging as being physically hit. They are verbal slaps in the face.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel We have been told and feel that we are responsible for their emotional well-being. We are not. We are responsible only for ourselves.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel He or she may begin to believe that there is something wrong with them or even fear they are losing their mind. They have become so beaten down emotionally that they blame themselves for the abuse.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Emotional abuse is any type of abuse that is not physical in nature. It can include everything from verbal abuse to the silent treatment, domination to subtle manipulation.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Positive and powerful: It’s more important what I think of me than what someone else thinks of me.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Positive and powerful: Sometimes people won’t like me, and it’s okay. Positive and powerful: I like me, and that’s all that matters.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel When someone is unrelentingly critical of you, always finds fault, can never be pleased, and blames you for everything that goes wrong, it is the insidious nature and cumulative effects of the abuse that do the damage.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel You have the right to your own ideas and opinions, to make your own decisions, and to have things go your way at times. Stand up for those rights.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Usually, critical words are accompanied by threats, name-calling, and yelling. This verbal abuse can be especially damaging.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Accepting that your imperfections and so-called negative attributes are part of what makes you unique will help you to stop continually trying to be someone or something that you are not.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel It is far more important to know myself and take care of myself than it is to look good to others.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Strong Women stand up for themselves and make it abundantly clear that they will not tolerate the abuse. If this doesn’t work, they walk away.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel They often become frightened whenever they feel anything intensely, be it anger, pain, fear, or even love and joy. They fear their emotions will consume them or make them crazy.
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