I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
BARBARA DEMINGPeople who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
More Barbara Deming Quotes
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All prisons that have existed in our society to date put people away as no human being should ever be put away.
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After the revolution, it might very well remain necessary to place people where they could not do harm to others. But the one under restraint should be cut off from the rest of society as little as possible.
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After the revolution, let us hope, prisons simply would not exist – if by prisons we mean places that could be experienced by the men and women in them at all as every place that goes by that name now is bound to be experienced.
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This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.
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There should be no censorship of mail.
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The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
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We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.
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Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
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People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
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Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resort to physical strength? Who better than we should know all the power that resides in noncooperation?
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We cannot live without our lives
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Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.
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The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone – by trying to act it out.
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To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
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Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.
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