“I’ve always had tremendous support from my parents. I think there’s a myth that gay people have lousy relationships with their parents.”

As an actor, I have casting issues. I’m a minority. I don’t have trouble making a living, but as far as being on the food chain of the pecking order of actors, I’m not at the top of it. With the jobs that I do, there are always control issues with directors and producers.

I remain on SVU because it is an incredible opportunity.

Asian people are very practical and come from a conservative world. The parents want their kids to be doctors and lawyers. There are casting calls for Asian children, but once the parents find out the children might miss school, they’re opposed to it.

Writing is an incredibly creatively empowering experience for me. It is the place where nobody tries to control what I’m doing.

I had studied the violin to a certain amount of success. At some point, I realized that I didnt really like the violin. I was only doing it because I could, and I was good at it, and everyone was encouraging me. But I didnt have a great love for it.

If I were to limit myself to the opportunities that were presented playing only Chinese-American parts, I would be virtually without a career.

I’m a strong nonbeliever in the Christmas letter where you don’t really read it because it’s just full of kind of meaningless information. It doesn’t really resonate to the person reading it, but it means so much to the person that wrote it.

I have a hard time watching films and not thinking how I would play any part, whether its a man or a woman.

Tell you what, if there were gays in the army ‘Saving Private Ryan’ would have been a hell of a lot shorter film.

I am gay, and I’m very comfortable with it.

People want to talk about whether I have rock cred, whether I’m selling out, the theatricality, the gay stuff… Chill out! And just enjoy yourself.

I can single handedly dispel any ideas that sexuality is acquired. Trust me, you’re born with it.

There is no way it would take gay men three hours to find Matt Damon.

If you’ve driven over to the gay section of Los Angeles, it’s like a golf course… Real estate values go ‘boom!’

I don’t care if people think I’m gay. I know I’m not, so it doesn’t bother me.

My favorite thing to do is to wind those guys up by hitting on their girlfriends. I say, ‘I think your girlfriend’s gorgeous, but it’s all right, I’m gay.’ They get very nervous after a few minutes!