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The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.

Alain de Botton

Mental health: having enough safe places in your mind for your thoughts to settle.
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Emouhj Health Mental Place Safe Settle
What is fascinating about marriage is why anyone wants to get married.
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Anyone Fascinate Marriage Married
The materialistic view of happiness of our age starkly revealed in our understanding of the word “luxury.
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Age Happiness Luxury Materialistic Reveal Starkly Understanding
I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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Day General Life Optimistic Person Pessimistic Take Terrific Thing
It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.
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Acquaintance Acquire Beautiful Dialogue Grief Pain Thing Turn More Value
Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.
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Aesthetic Capacity Critical Draw Good Happiness Material Object Satisfy Seem
Social media has lots of benefits, but compared to Christianity, it tends to group people by interests. Religion puts you with people who have nothing in common except that you’re human.
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Benefit Community Compare Interest Media Religious Social
Cynics are – beneath it all – only idealists with awkwardly high standards.
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Awkward Beneath Cynic High Idealist Standard
The finest proof of our loyalty toward one another was our monstrous disloyalties towards everyone else.
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Another Disloyalty Everyone Finest Loyalty Monstrous Proof Toward
One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.
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Appreciate Cause Flaw Grateful Major Unhappiness
The activities of drawing, eating and drinking, all involve assimilations by the self of desirable elements from the world, a transfer of goodness from without to within.
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Activity Assimilation Desirable Draw Drink Eat Element Goodness Involve Transfer World
Because the rhythm of conversation makes no allowance for dead periods, because the presence of others calls for continuous responses, we are left to regret the inanity of what we say, and the missed opportunity of what we do not.
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Allow Call Continuous Conversation Dead Make Misuse Opportunity Period Presence Rhythm
Once I began to consider everything as being of potential interest, objects released latent layers of value.
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Began Consider Everything Interest Object Potential Release Value
…if the beginnings of love and amorous politics are equally rosy, then the ends may be equally bloody.
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Amorous Beginning Bloody End Equally Love Politics
How generous was it to offer gifts to people one knew would never accept them?
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Accept Generous Gift never Offer People
Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
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Behaviour Forgive Malice Require Sense Sign Suffer

The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.

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The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.

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