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My children cause me the most exquisite suffering of which I have any experience. It is the suffering of ambivalence: the murderous alternation between bitter resentment and raw-edged nerves, and blissful gratification and tenderness.

Adrienne Rich

Until we understand the assumptions in which we are drenched we cannot know ourselves. And this drive to self-knowledge, for women, is more than a search for identity.
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Assumption Drenched Identity Knowledge More Ourselves Refusal Search Women
I keep coming back to you in my head, but you couldn’t know that, and I have no carbons.
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Back Carbon Coming Head Keep Know
No one sleeps in this room without the dream of a common language.
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Common Dream Language Room Sleep
When we look closely, or when we become weavers, we learn of the tiny multiple threads unseen in the overall pattern, the knots on the underside of the carpet
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Carpet Closely Look Multiple Threads Tiny Underside Unseen Weaver
The worker can unionize, go out on strike; mothers are divided from each other in homes, tied to their children by compassionate bonds; our wildcat strikes have most often taken the form of physical or mental breakdown.
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Children Day Inspiring Mother Strike Tied Unionize Worker
If you think you can grasp me, think again: my story flows in more than one direction, a delta springing from the river bed with its five fingers spread.
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Again Delta Direction Flow Grasp One River Springing Story Thinking
If I cling to circumstances I could feel not responsible. Only she who says she did not choose, is the loser in the end.
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Choose Circumstance End Feel Loser Responsible
The more I live, the more I think, two people together is a miracle.
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Miracle More People Thinking Together Two
When someone with the authority of a teacher, say, describes the world and you are not in it, there is a moment of psychic disequilibrium, as if you looked into a mirror and saw nothing. Yet you know you exist and others like you, that this is a game with mirrors.
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Authority Describe Disequilibrium Individual Strength Mirror Physic Teacher World
An honorable human relationship- that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love”- is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other.
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Delicate Honorable Human Love People Process Relationship Self Truth Two Violent
We must use what we have to invent what we desire.
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Desire Dream Invent Lose Success Use
The revolution of a wheel which returns in the end to the same place; the revolving door of a politics which has liberated women only to use them, and only within the limits of male tolerance.
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Door Limit Male Politics Return Revolution Same Tolerance
And perhaps there is none now; but we will have to make it, we who want an end to suffering, who want to change the laws of history, if we are not to give ourselves away.
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Change History Make Perhaps Suffering
The longer I live the more I mistrust theatricality, the false glamour cast by performance, the more I know its poverty beside the truths we are salvaging from the splitting-open of our lives. -from “Transcendental Etude
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False Glamour Longer Mistrust Performance Poverty Theatricality Transcendental
What I search for continuously in my art is adequate language, language I hope can stand beyond any particular occasion.
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Adequate Art Dysfunction Hope Language Occasion Particular Search Stand
We see daily that our lives are terrible and little, without continuity, buyable and salable at any moment, mere blips on a screen, that this is the way we live now. Memory marketed as nostalgia; terror reduced to mere suspense, to melodrama.
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Buyable Life Live Melodrama Memories Nostalgia Salablem Blip Screen Suspense Terrible Terror Way

My children cause me the most exquisite suffering of which I have any experience. It is the suffering of ambivalence: the murderous alternation between bitter resentment and raw-edged nerves, and blissful gratification and tenderness.

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My children cause me the most exquisite suffering of which I have any experience. It is the suffering of ambivalence: the murderous alternation between bitter resentment and raw-edged nerves, and blissful gratification and tenderness.

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