Beverly Engel on responsible
Beverly Engel17 quotes“We have been told and feel that we are responsible for their emotional well-being. We are not. We are responsible only for ourselves.”
Filed under
More from Beverly Engel
There are many types of emotional abuse but most is done in an attempt to control or subjugate another person.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Emotional abuse is like brainwashing in that it systematically wears away at the victim’s self-confidence, sense of self, trust in her perceptions and self-concept.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel You have a right to be angry with the perpetrator, regardless of who it was, how long ago the sexual abuse occurred, or how much he/she has changed.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Critical words to a child are as painful and damaging as being physically hit. They are verbal slaps in the face.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel He or she may begin to believe that there is something wrong with them or even fear they are losing their mind. They have become so beaten down emotionally that they blame themselves for the abuse.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Emotional abuse is any type of abuse that is not physical in nature. It can include everything from verbal abuse to the silent treatment, domination to subtle manipulation.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Positive and powerful: It’s more important what I think of me than what someone else thinks of me.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Positive and powerful: Sometimes people won’t like me, and it’s okay. Positive and powerful: I like me, and that’s all that matters.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel When someone is unrelentingly critical of you, always finds fault, can never be pleased, and blames you for everything that goes wrong, it is the insidious nature and cumulative effects of the abuse that do the damage.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel You have the right to your own ideas and opinions, to make your own decisions, and to have things go your way at times. Stand up for those rights.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Usually, critical words are accompanied by threats, name-calling, and yelling. This verbal abuse can be especially damaging.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Accepting that your imperfections and so-called negative attributes are part of what makes you unique will help you to stop continually trying to be someone or something that you are not.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel It is far more important to know myself and take care of myself than it is to look good to others.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism, and accusations slowly eat away at the victim’s self-esteem until he or she is incapable of judging a situation realistically.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel Strong Women stand up for themselves and make it abundantly clear that they will not tolerate the abuse. If this doesn’t work, they walk away.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel They often become frightened whenever they feel anything intensely, be it anger, pain, fear, or even love and joy. They fear their emotions will consume them or make them crazy.
Beverly EngelBeverly Engel
Original quotes
From our community writers
And in the end when the money is gone – will you still stay it was worth it.
M.K. StandbyM.K. Standby My soul speaks a language, only you can understand.
Ginnie BaleGinnie Bale In another life, you kept your word, and forever’s still ours for the taking.
Harriet SelinaHarriet Selina Journey with struggle becomes a great tale in the future.
Carla StokesCarla Stokes I’m not asking that you take the bullet for me. I wish you’d shoot first.
Danielle MontgomeryDanielle Montgomery A rainy day is the perfect excuse to explore deeper feelings.
Emily BockEmily Bock Stop taking care of everyone else before you take care of yourself.
Claire VinsonClaire Vinson Music is a weed, we all fallen souls are high on.
Ananya BhaskarAnanya Bhaskar
Meet the writers
More on responsible
It’s a free country. I know we have a lot of regulations in the world right now in what we can and can’t do. I would rather our people be responsible and not have to be regulated.
Nick SabanNick Saban Don’t depend on other people to be responsible for you. Don’t make yourself stressed out over nonsensical things like material things.
Eartha KittEartha Kitt When the people who are responsible for our country ask you a direct question, I expect them to accept a direct answer, not to be blackballed because you are telling the truth.
Eartha KittEartha Kitt I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.
Robert A. HeinleinRobert A. Heinlein Don’t have good ideas if you aren’t willing to be responsible for them.
Alan PerlisAlan Perlis So let us take our fair share of the true refugees and act responsible as a government in providing for their necessary expenses.
Alan Kooi SimpsonAlan Kooi Simpson We began to feel as if we really were responsible for the successful, error-free perfect use of these machines.
Alan PerlisAlan Perlis I don’t think we are. I think we’re responsible for stretching them, setting them off in new directions, and keeping fun in the house.
Alan PerlisAlan Perlis
