You have to be quite heavily invested in someone to do them the honour of telling them you’re annoyed with them.
ALAIN DE BOTTONEndeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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The blunt large questions become connected to smaller, apparently esoteric ones.
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Social media has lots of benefits, but compared to Christianity, it tends to group people by interests. Religion puts you with people who have nothing in common except that you’re human.
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True love is a lack of desire to check one’s smartphone in another’s presence.
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When Proust urges us to evaluate the world properly, he repeatedly reminds us of the value of modest scenes.
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The only people we can think of as normal are those we don’t yet know very well.
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Journeys are the midwives of thought. Few places are more conducive to internal conversations than moving planes, ships or trains.
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One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.
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Only as we mature does affection begin to depend on achievement.
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Being content is perhaps no less easy than playing the violin well: and requires no less practice.
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Every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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People only get really interesting when they start to rattle the bars of their cages.
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The dream of the news is that it makes us care about other people and situations. But we cannot identify with people to whom we haven’t been introduced. Humans will only respond to art, to people who are skilled in making you care.
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Differ though we might with Christianity’s view of what precisely our souls need, it is hard to discredit the provocative underlying thesis.
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What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.
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