The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
ALAIN DE BOTTONWe need objects to remind us of the commitments we’ve made. That carpet from Morocco reminds us of the impulsive, freedom-loving side of ourselves we’re in danger of losing touch with. Beautiful furniture gives us something to live up to. All designed objects are propaganda for a way of life.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Unnatural to expect that learning to be happy should be any easier than, say, learning to play the violin or require any less practice.
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A ‘good job’ can be both practically attractive while still not good enough to devote your entire life to.
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Paying tax should be framed as a glorious civic duty worthy of gratitude – not a punishment for making money.
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Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books that were written because authors couldn’t find anyone to talk to.
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We read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
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I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.
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One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on.
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Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Once I began to consider everything as being of potential interest, objects released latent layers of value.
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We envy only those whom we feel ourselves to be like; we envy only members of our reference group. There are few successes more unendurable than those of our close friends.
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We may seek a fortune for no greater reason than to secure the respect and attention of people who would otherwise look straight through us.
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The fear of saying something stupid (which stupid people never have) has censored far more good ideas than bad ones.
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Every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Endeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.
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What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions.
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