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Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape.

Iyanla Vanzant

Change doesn’t have to be hard, and healing doesn’t have to hurt. Surely by now you know that every thing happens for a reason! There is something better awaiting you on the other side of this.
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Change Hard Healing Hope Hurt Reason
You do not have to love what is going on in your life, but you must accept that it, whatever it is, is going on. As long as you do not accept reality, you are powerless to define the role you will play.
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Acceptance Life Love Play Reality Role Yourself
Speak and live in simple sentences. Bring closure- put a period to- those experiences that you don’t want to carry on forever and ever. Use commas in those places where you’re still growing and use exclamation points at the end of every lesson.
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Carry Experience Forever Growth Lesson Live Simplicity Talk
Don’t get hung up on the hard times, the challenges. Tell your story by highlighting the victories. Because it’s your victories that will inspire, motivate, encourage other people to live their stories in grander ways.
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Challenge Hard Time Live People Story Victory Yourself
Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.
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Deep Family Heart Broken Pain Place Safety
When you make a decision and a commitment to do something good for yourself, it is like dropping a pebble in a pond. It has a rippling effect. The firmer the decision, the stronger the frequency and wider the range of things that will be reached.
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Commitment Decision Goodness Self Love Yourself
You can direct the outcome of any situation you face through the power of thought. Keep your thoughts focused on the best possible outcome for everyone involved and never allow yourself to be pushed where you don’t choose to be.
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Direction Position Possible Power Yourself
Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday.
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Ability Education Learning Place Yourself
It is not your duty or responsibility to change the minds of other people. The nature of their thinking is advanced or limited by their experience. In your presence, they have an opportunity to learn about you and, perhaps, to grow.
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Change Experience Growth Learning Limitation Mindset Opportunity Responsibility Thinking
Everything happens when it needs to happen; everyone is always where they need to be. You will never miss out on what is meant for you, even if it has to come to you in a roundabout way.
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Life Missing Need Wisdom Yourself
You have to meet people where they are, and sometimes you have to leave them there.
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Leaving People Yourself
We all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.
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Live Love Need Ourselves Willing
Sometimes you have to lose everything in order to gain yourself.
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Inspirational Lose Yourself
Instead of running from what you don’t want, walk with commitment toward what you desire. Focus on where you are going rather than being obsessed with where you have been.
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Commitment Desire Focus Journey Run Walk Yourself
Their issues are not your issues.
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Issues Yourself
If you should encounter angry or unkind actions today, take a deep breath, reach deep within and greet the lack of love with love.
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Action Anger Breathe Kind Love Yourself

Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape.

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Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape.

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