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Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape.

Iyanla Vanzant

Fear wears so many clever disguises it is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something.
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Fear Impossible Need Recognition Wisdom
It’s important that we share our experiences with other people. Your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and give other people permission to acknowledge their own story.
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Experience Freedom Healing Important Ourselves People Story Yourself
Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday.
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Ability Education Learning Place Yourself
You will stumble at time, forget what you want, fall headfirst into your old habits and beliefs. Fear not! Always remember to be patient and loving with yourself and others because that is what God does all the time.
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Belief God Habit Patience Time Yourself
When the time comes for you to make a change or to grow, the universe will make you so uncomfortable you will eventually have no choice.
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Change Choice Growth Time
When you don’t show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you’re not. Then when they find out who you are, that’s when they leave.
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Be Yourself Fall In Love Leaving People
To honor life, we must be willing to grow through what we don’t know yet, and outgrow what we know no longer fits us. We must be willing to give in to the process, moment by moment, realizing a new plot may be unfolding.
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Growth Life Moments Willing
Lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt.
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Deep Fall Hard Time Live Need
We all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.
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Live Love Need Ourselves Willing
It is not your duty or responsibility to change the minds of other people. The nature of their thinking is advanced or limited by their experience. In your presence, they have an opportunity to learn about you and, perhaps, to grow.
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Change Experience Growth Learning Limitation Mindset Opportunity Responsibility Thinking
Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.
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Deep Family Heart Broken Pain Place Safety
Before you find out who you are, you have to figure out who you aren’t.
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Deep Spiritual Yourself
Love people enough to tell them the truth and respect them enough to trust that they can handle it.
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Enough Love People Respect Trust Truth
Everybody does not have to like you. That is not their job. Liking you is not anyone’s purpose in life except yours.
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Job Purpose Yourself
When was the last time you thanked you for always being there for you? Self appreciation soothes an aching soul.
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Soul Thankful Time Yourself
If you should encounter angry or unkind actions today, take a deep breath, reach deep within and greet the lack of love with love.
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Action Anger Breathe Kind Love Yourself

Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape.

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Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape.

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