Henry Cloud Quotes

To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.

The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.

True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

Things don’t change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.