“I don’t write anything that I haven’t lived. In terms of integrity, you have to write what you live. And if you write beyond what you live, it is theory. And theory is not helpful. It is just not.”

We are created for adventure, and if we cannot find one, we start blowing things out of proportion so it feels like we have one.

You can’t fight a battle you don’t think exists.

It is the thoughts and intents of the heart that shape a person’s life.

Henri Nouwen once asked Mother Teresa for spiritual direction. Spend one hour each day in adoration of your Lord, she said, and never do anything you know is wrong. Follow this and you’ll be fine.

Desire reveals design, and design reveals destiny.

They ignore what is deep and true to a man’s heart, his real passions, and simply try to shape him up through various forms of pressure.

Eternal life is not primarily duration but quality of life, “life to the limit.

Christianity has basically communicated to men that the reason God put you on this Earth is to be a good boy. Mind your manners, be a nice guy. That’s soul killing!

The point is the love story. We live in a love story in the midst of war.

If only Jesus’ followers shared his personality. That one shift alone would correct so many of the ridiculous and horrifying things that pass for popular Christianity.

The meaning of our lives is revealed through experiences that at first seem at odds with each other–moments we wish would never end and moments we wish had never begun.

Instead of asking, ‘What should a woman do – what is her role?’ it would be far more helpful to ask, ‘What is a woman—what is her design?’ and, ‘Why did God place Woman in our midst?

In the end, it doesn’t matter how well we have performed or what we have accomplished—a life without heart is not worth living.

A man needs a much bigger orbit than a woman. He needs a mission, a life purpose, and he needs to know his name. Only then is he fit for a woman, for only then does he have something to invite her into.

God endowed you with a glory when he created you, a glory so deep and mythic that all creation pales in comparison.

A wound that goes unacknowledged and unwept is a wound that cannot heal.