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We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.

Barbara Deming

I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
BARBARA DEMING

Always Deep Judgment Obiient Sense
there is clearly a kind of anger that is healthy. It is the concentration of one’s whole being in the determination: this must change.
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Anger Determination Healthy
I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
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Choices Enemy Thinking
Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
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Men Moving Tactic
Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.
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Change Mind People
A liberation movement that is nonviolent sets the oppressor free as well as the oppressed.
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Liberation Movement Strength
People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
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Attack Need People Rationalization
Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
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Another Courage Nerve Surely
Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one’s fears.
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Fear First Thinking
People may find it more comfortable to listen to us if we equivocate, but in the long run only words that discomfort them are going to change our situation.
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Change Long Running
The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
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Diversity Peace Real
It is one thing to be able to state the price the antagonist paid, another to be able to count you own real gains.
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Able Antagonist Gains Real
What is the revolution that we need? We need to dissolve the lie that some people have a right to think of other people as their property. And we need at last to form a circle that includes us all, in which all of us are seen as equal… We do not belong to the other, but our lives are linked; we belong in a circle of others.
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Lying Peace Thinking
Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
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Happen Live Moment Place Time
Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resort to physical strength? Who better than we should know all the power that resides in noncooperation?
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Effectiveness Peace Wife
We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
BARBARA DEMING

Differences Justice Voice

We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.

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We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.

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