“Regardless of the problem, as long as our solution requires someone else to change, we will never know the power and promise of self-determination.”

The most powerful times in our lives can be the time between times, or life’s transitions that give us the opportunity to choose.

To understand ourself, we must understand our “selves,” or the parts of us that motivate our thoughts, decisions, and behaviors.

A process for discernment: God is my ultimate source of truth and wisdom, and dwells forever at the center of my being. Therefore, any thought, emotion, or action that takes me further from my center can be neither truthful, nor wise.

Perspective is what allows us to step back and see the entire forest instead of just the same old tree we keep running into again and again.

When our purpose becomes avoidance, our life becomes a void.

The most successful form of correction is when the “other” feels informed versus chastised.

Freedom isn’t about having permission to do whatever we want… it’s about having the courage to do whatever fills our life with meaning.

Sleep is simply a chemical change in our brain and body (melatonin) – It?s not a place we go, it is a state of being that we fall into.

One barrier to being a great parent is the mistaken belief that we are raising kids.

When faced with conflicting thoughts and emotions, we must decide what to trust, what we fear, or what we know. What’s important is that this decision be made by the knowledgeable versus the anxious part of who we are.

Serenity is not just an escape, but a precursor to acceptance, courage, wisdom, and change.

You never want to tie your responsibility to another’s irresponsibility.

People have the absolute right to be just as unhappy and miserable as they want to be.

In our lives, we can either be a reflection of the world around us . . . or a beam that enlightens the lives of others.

Stress is an indicator of our belief in the value and validity of our worries and fears.

Nothing is meaningless it’s how we assign meaning to the past that determines how we experience the present, and future.

The vixen I met at twilight on Route 5 south of Willoughby: long dead. She was an omen to me, surviving, herding her cubs in the silvery bend of the road in nineteen sixty-five.

Anything you ever make that matters takes a long time.

They say before you make something happen you have to see it yourself.

I have been seeing it for a long time and I am living my dream.

The Mirror Empire is the most original fantasy I’ve read in a long time.

Self-confidence goes a long way and is very attractive to others.

So here you are, in your twenties, thinking that you’ll have another 40 years to go.

Four decades in which to live long and prosper.