“The truth is despite the hard work and juggling required to keep the different facets of the frantic life afloat, the “superwoman”has one marvelous compensation.”

When you combine wife, mother, career and all, each role become the perfect excuse for avoiding the worst aspects of the other.

Traditionally, marriage involved a kind of bartering, rather than mutual inter-dependence or role sharing.

Being busy and being seen to be busy lets you off the hook. Buys you a way out of all aspects of your many roles you secretly despiselike cleaning cupboardsor entertaining your husband’s business friends.

Women hope men will change after marriage but they don’t; men hope women won’t change but they do.

The good husbands understand and offer to help. “All you have to do is ask” they say. But even helpful husbands have to be thanked, their contributions acknowledged, credit given.

Husbands financially and economically supported wives, while wives emotionally, psychologically and socially supported husbands. He brought home the bacon, she cooked it. He fixed the plumbing, she the psyche.