I think you choose how you walk through this life. I think if you choose to participate in a paradigm that is looks-based, if you’re an actor, then it can be empowering in some ways, and it can be really limiting in some ways in terms of time and longevity.
You gotta love yourself, because when you’re hurting – you never know who’s gonna be around to do the lovin’ for ya. You gotta love yourself through the pain.
There are a lot of women who feel that they have done all the work in their relationship only for someone else to step in and take the love and credit for it.
If I’m feeling hurt, sad, lonely, depressed, and then I shame myself for feeling that, then that’s a black hole for me. I really have worked a lot to meet pain with both gratitude and gentleness.
The pain is always bringing me a lesson. If I listen to the lesson when the pain is manageable, the pain won’t get gargantuan and flatten me entirely, because I will have received the message at the center.
