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The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.

Barbara Deming

The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
BARBARA DEMING

Injunction Mean Neighbor Ourselves
It is one thing to be able to state the price the antagonist paid, another to be able to count you own real gains.
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Able Antagonist Gains Real
I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
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Choices Enemy Thinking
Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one’s fears.
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Fear First Thinking
I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
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Always Deep Judgment Obiient Sense
Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.
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Break Punishment Spirit
The point is to change one’s life. The point is not to give some vent to the emotions that have been destroying one; the point is so to act that one can master them now.
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Destroying Emotion Giving
This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.
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Argument Heart Pressure
Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
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Men Moving Tactic
Vengeance is not the point: change is.
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Change Point Vengeanc
We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
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Differences Justice Voice
Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.
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Change Mind People
Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resort to physical strength? Who better than we should know all the power that resides in noncooperation?
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Effectiveness Peace Wife
Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.
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Action Doe Nice
We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.
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Balance Believe Name
Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.
BARBARA DEMING

Doubt Jail Trying

The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.

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