Barbara Deming on being
Barbara Deming34 quotes“The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone – by trying to act it out.”
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Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming We cannot live without our lives
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming There should be no censorship of mail.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming there is clearly a kind of anger that is healthy. It is the concentration of one’s whole being in the determination: this must change.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Our task, of course, is to transmute the anger that is affliction into the anger that is determination to bring about change. I think, in fact, that one could give that as a definition of revolution.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming After the revolution, let us hope, prisons simply would not exist – if by prisons we mean places that could be experienced by the men and women in them at all as every place that goes by that name now is bound to be experienced.
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