We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
BARBARA DEMING
BARBARA DEMING
Barbara Deming on differences
Barbara Deming34 quotes“We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.”
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Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone – by trying to act it out.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming there is clearly a kind of anger that is healthy. It is the concentration of one’s whole being in the determination: this must change.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Our task, of course, is to transmute the anger that is affliction into the anger that is determination to bring about change. I think, in fact, that one could give that as a definition of revolution.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming After the revolution, let us hope, prisons simply would not exist – if by prisons we mean places that could be experienced by the men and women in them at all as every place that goes by that name now is bound to be experienced.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resort to physical strength? Who better than we should know all the power that resides in noncooperation?
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming A great many of us must move from words to acts – from words of dissent to acts of disobedience.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming It is one thing to be able to state the price the antagonist paid, another to be able to count you own real gains.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming People may find it more comfortable to listen to us if we equivocate, but in the long run only words that discomfort them are going to change our situation.
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I have discovered that there is a crucial difference between society’s image of old people and ‘us’ as we know and feel ourselves to be.
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H. L. MenckenH. L. Mencken But every little difference may become a big one if it is insisted on.
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Dalai LamaDalai Lama Peace means solving these differences through peaceful means; through dialogue, education, knowledge; and through humane ways.
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