Less time alone with parents. Less attention for hurts and disappointments. Less approval for accomplishments. . . .
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Anand Thakur
Less time alone with parents. Less attention for hurts and disappointments. Less approval for accomplishments. . . .
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From their verbal sparring they learn the difference between being clever and being hurtful.
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We put him in touch with his inner reality.
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And it’s not hard to understand why in families across the land,
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Our job is to let our children know what’s right about them.
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The personal frustrations that they don’t dare let out on anyone else but a brother or sister,
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The whole world will tell them what’s wrong with them–out loud and often.
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Let us be different in our homes.
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Add to that the envy that one child feels for the accomplishments of the other;
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Deep inside you know / when trouble comes / and there’s no one else to turn to
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We deprive them of the experience that comes from wrestling with their own problems.
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Take two kids in competition for their parents’ love and attention.
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And sometimes, from their envy of each other’s special abilities they become inspired to work harder, persist and achieve.
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And once he’s clear about that reality, he gathers the strength to begin to cope.
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You can call on each other / and count on each other … / because each other / is all you have.
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No wonder children struggle so fiercely to be first or best.
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