We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
HENRY CLOUDThe extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
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The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
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Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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One of the worst things you can die with is potential.
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Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.
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The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!
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A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.
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The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
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Diligence is not easy, but we can’t reach our goals without it.
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We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
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The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love
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A leader’s responsibility is to cause a vision and mission to have tangible results in the real world.
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Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.
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Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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If people are really narcissistic or have a need to be seen as more than they really are, or to be admired as having it all together, then they cannot be followed and trusted by others.
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Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
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When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.
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A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.
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Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
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The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
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If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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