“I think that we need to change the culture, not blame the people that are playing the only game that exists.”

Being married is like having somebody permanently in your corner. It feels limitless, not limited.

Once we give up searching for approval we often find it easier to earn respect.

Women can be vivacious. We are allowed more varieties of facial expression and gestures. Men must be rocklike.

Any woman who chooses to behave like a full human being should be warned that the armies of the status quo will treat her as something of a dirty joke. That’s their natural and first weapon. She will need her sisterhood.

The story of women’s struggle for equality belongs to no single feminist nor to any one organization but to the collective efforts of all who care about human rights

Feminism has never been about getting a job for one woman. It’s about making life more fair for women everywhere. It’s not about a piece of the existing pie; there are too many of us for that. It’s about baking a new pie.

learning must travel the distance from head to heart.

What I think we need to do is infuse everyday and every action with the kind of values we hope will be in the future, with kindness, with nurturing, with dreams, ambition, using your talents, not resorting to violence, other forms of conflict resolution, with humor, with poetry, with music.

Women have two choices: Either she’s a feminist or a masochist.

The purpose of feminism is to free the uniqueness of the individual and to understand that inside each of us is a unique human being who is a combination of heredity and environment.

Life after 50 or 60 is itself another country, as different as adolescence is from childhood, or as adulthood is from adolescence – and just as adventurous.

If you really want to be lonely, get married.

But somewhere within each of us, buried at varying depths depending on the age and degree of neglect or abuse, shame or coercion we endured, there is a resistant, daydreaming, rebellious, creative, unique child — a true self who is waiting.

Empathy is the most radical of human emotions.

Helping begins with listening.

The origins of violence against women by men are not biological. If that were the case, it would exist in every culture. And it doesn’t exist in every culture.

Men are only clever at shifting blame from their own shoulders to those of others.

No more excuses. I can’t blame anything on my parents. I’m responsible for my mistakes and my choices.

Edgar had a heart attack, and I’m to blame. We were making love, and I took the bag off my head.

I enjoyed the position I was in as a tennis player. I was to blame when I lost. I was to blame when I won. And I really like that, because I played soccer a lot too, and I couldn’t stand it when I had to blame it on the goalkeeper.

I’m not one to blame anyone else for anything. And I don’t think anyone else should either.

This is the first lesson to learn: be determined not to curse anything outside, not to lay the blame upon anyone outside, but stand up, lay the blame on yourself. You will find that is always true. Get hold of yourself.

Blame nobody else, do not commit the mistake of the ignorant.

Societies need to have one illness which becomes identified with evil, and attaches blame to its victims.