Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
IRVIN D. YALOMThe therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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Some have expressed the very opposite feeling–the fear that they would not be interesting enough to write about.
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All these things I’ve written so much about. That’s why I’ve made such a practice really, over and over to hammer home the point of self-revelation and being more of yourself and showing yourself. Every book I write I want to get that in there.
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There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don’t leave any unlived life behind.
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My hunch is yes. It would certainly do something for those who are most ruthless, who tend to make others most miserable.
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If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.
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One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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Live right, he reminded himself, and have faith that good things will flow from you even if you never learn of them.
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Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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I never want to take away something when I don’t have anything better to offer him in a way.
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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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