If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
IRVIN D. YALOMTo the extent that one is responsible for one’s life, one is alone.
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Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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The death anxiety of many people is fueled … by disappointment at never having fulfilled their potential.
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Despair is the price one pays for self-awareness. Look deeply into life, and you’ll always find despair.
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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That’s when I will be truly dead – when I exist in no one’s memory.
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It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one’s germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!
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If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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When people don’t have any curiosity about themselves, that is always a bad sign.
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… sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past.
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