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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

Henry Cloud

The business of church is ultimately people. You’re trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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Anand Thakur
Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.
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Morals Reality Religious
In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.
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Anand Thakur
People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari – like they’re trying to land the trophy.
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Award Date People Perspective Relationship
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
I’m not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.
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Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
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Beyond Faith Feeling Reason Touch
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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Attitude Build Communication Culture Expectation Honesty Performance
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.
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Brain Follow Leadership People Result Well
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
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Criticism Issues People Relationship Sound
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Built Disagree Freedom Intimacy True
You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.
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Attempt Growth Yourself

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

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