In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.
BRENDA SHOSHANNADo not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.
More Brenda Shoshanna Quotes
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A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
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Don’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
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Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
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our joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?
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Now today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.
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Fear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.
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We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.
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When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are.
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If one’s sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.
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Consider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? Write it down. Do not judge your answers.
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Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.
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Be honest and simple. As you keep track all week long, you’ll be amazed at what claims your attention, what you give your precious life force to.
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Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
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The sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.
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What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.
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