This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWe calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.
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We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.
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When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are.
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Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
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Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.
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When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide.
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A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
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Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
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Don’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
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our joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?
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Be honest and simple. As you keep track all week long, you’ll be amazed at what claims your attention, what you give your precious life force to.
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It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive.
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If one’s sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.
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From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).
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Now today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.
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In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.
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