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We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.

Brenda Shoshanna

Fear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.
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Action Future Past
If one’s sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.
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Eye Lost Self Sense
Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.
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Home Practice Pride
What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.
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Attention Become Expand Pay
From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).
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Anger Ignorance Views
A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
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Choices Knowing Time
Don’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
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Focusing Person Provide Time
When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide.
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House Relationship Treasure
The more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.
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Lived More Rule Strength
This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
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Blooming Love Loving Relationship
Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
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Bases Change Lives Our
Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.
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Different People Something Want
Consider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? Write it down. Do not judge your answers.
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Honesty Simple Writing
When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are.
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Love Relationship Space
Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you ‘should’ become. Find out who you are right now.
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Practice Should Worry
Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
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Attachment Love Nature

We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.

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