A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAA time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAour joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?
BRENDA SHOSHANNAConsider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? Write it down. Do not judge your answers.
BRENDA SHOSHANNARelying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAFear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWho you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWhat we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAIn a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAThis is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAThe more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.
BRENDA SHOSHANNANow today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.
BRENDA SHOSHANNADon’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAIt is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAThe sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWhen we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWe calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.
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