Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAFear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.
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This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
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When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide.
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Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.
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Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
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Be honest and simple. As you keep track all week long, you’ll be amazed at what claims your attention, what you give your precious life force to.
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The more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.
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Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.
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Don’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
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Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you ‘should’ become. Find out who you are right now.
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If one’s sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.
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What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.
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Consider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? Write it down. Do not judge your answers.
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Now today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.
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A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
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In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.
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