Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAChange is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAThe sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAour joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?
BRENDA SHOSHANNABe honest and simple. As you keep track all week long, you’ll be amazed at what claims your attention, what you give your precious life force to.
BRENDA SHOSHANNADo not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAFrom the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWho you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAThis is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWhat we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAA time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAIn a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.
BRENDA SHOSHANNADon’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAZen practice asks you not to worry about who you ‘should’ become. Find out who you are right now.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWhen we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAThe more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAIt is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive.
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