The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
BARBARA DEMINGI learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
More Barbara Deming Quotes
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I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
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A liberation movement that is nonviolent sets the oppressor free as well as the oppressed.
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It is one thing to be able to state the price the antagonist paid, another to be able to count you own real gains.
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What is the revolution that we need? We need to dissolve the lie that some people have a right to think of other people as their property. And we need at last to form a circle that includes us all, in which all of us are seen as equal… We do not belong to the other, but our lives are linked; we belong in a circle of others.
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Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resort to physical strength? Who better than we should know all the power that resides in noncooperation?
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After the revolution, it might very well remain necessary to place people where they could not do harm to others. But the one under restraint should be cut off from the rest of society as little as possible.
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This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.
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To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
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We cannot live without our lives
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The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone – by trying to act it out.
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Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one’s fears.
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People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
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Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.
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Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
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Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.
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