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The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.

Barbara Deming

Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.
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Change Mind People
This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.
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Argument Heart Pressure
We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
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Differences Justice Voice
Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one’s fears.
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Fear First Thinking
Vengeance is not the point: change is.
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Change Point Vengeanc
The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
BARBARA DEMING

Diversity Peace Real
Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.
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Action Doe Nice
People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
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Attack Need People Rationalization
Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.
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Pulse Spiritual Stranger
I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
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Always Deep Judgment Obiient Sense
Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.
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Break Punishment Spirit
People may find it more comfortable to listen to us if we equivocate, but in the long run only words that discomfort them are going to change our situation.
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Change Long Running
We cannot live without our lives
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Happen Life Live Our Surrounding
There should be no censorship of mail.
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Censorship Mail Regulation Strict
After the revolution, it might very well remain necessary to place people where they could not do harm to others. But the one under restraint should be cut off from the rest of society as little as possible.
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Cutting Harm Little People Revolution
Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
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Men Moving Tactic

The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.

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The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.

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