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Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.

Barbara Deming

I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
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Always Deep Judgment Obiient Sense
We cannot live without our lives
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Happen Life Live Our Surrounding
What is the revolution that we need? We need to dissolve the lie that some people have a right to think of other people as their property. And we need at last to form a circle that includes us all, in which all of us are seen as equal… We do not belong to the other, but our lives are linked; we belong in a circle of others.
BARBARA DEMING

Lying Peace Thinking
Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resort to physical strength? Who better than we should know all the power that resides in noncooperation?
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Effectiveness Peace Wife
Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
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Happen Live Moment Place Time
Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.
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Pulse Spiritual Stranger
It is one thing to be able to state the price the antagonist paid, another to be able to count you own real gains.
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Able Antagonist Gains Real
Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.
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Break Punishment Spirit
I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
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Choices Enemy Thinking
A great many of us must move from words to acts – from words of dissent to acts of disobedience.
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Great Men Moving Obedience
Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.
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Change Mind People
We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.
BARBARA DEMING

Balance Believe Name
We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
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Differences Justice Voice
To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
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Need Speak Violent
Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
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Another Courage Nerve Surely
The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
BARBARA DEMING

Diversity Peace Real

Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.

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Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.

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