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I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.

Barbara Deming

People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
BARBARA DEMING

Attack Need People Rationalization
To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
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Need Speak Violent
What is the revolution that we need? We need to dissolve the lie that some people have a right to think of other people as their property. And we need at last to form a circle that includes us all, in which all of us are seen as equal… We do not belong to the other, but our lives are linked; we belong in a circle of others.
BARBARA DEMING

Lying Peace Thinking
Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.
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Change Mind People
After the revolution, it might very well remain necessary to place people where they could not do harm to others. But the one under restraint should be cut off from the rest of society as little as possible.
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Cutting Harm Little People Revolution
The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
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Diversity Peace Real
This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.
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Argument Heart Pressure
All prisons that have existed in our society to date put people away as no human being should ever be put away.
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Our People Prison Society
We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.
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Balance Believe Name
Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
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Happen Live Moment Place Time
The point is to change one’s life. The point is not to give some vent to the emotions that have been destroying one; the point is so to act that one can master them now.
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Destroying Emotion Giving
The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
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Injunction Mean Neighbor Ourselves
Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.
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Break Punishment Spirit
A liberation movement that is nonviolent sets the oppressor free as well as the oppressed.
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Liberation Movement Strength
I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
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Always Deep Judgment Obiient Sense
The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone – by trying to act it out.
BARBARA DEMING

Being Brotherhood Free Men

I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.

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I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.

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