“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.”

When you live with constant gratitude, your life will become a living prayer.

To succeed, you have to do something and be very bad at it for a while. You have to look bad before you can look really good.

When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship.

One of the most courageous things we do is change. If everyone says you’re wonderful every time you wear a red dress, and you change to yellow, that takes courage.

They’re basically moments in which you’re in touch with the meaning of life, when your relationship to the rest of the universe makes sense.

If you don’t develop your skill at enjoying what you have, you won’t be any happier when you get more.

The moment in between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.

Silence has a regenerative power of its own. It is always sacred. It always returns you home.

when your field is architecture, you go visit the great cathedrals of the world. My field was relationships. I got married many times. I was practicing. I didn’t date much; I just would get married. I thought, why waste time?

In order to experience everyday spirituality, we need to remember that we are spiritual beings spending some time in a human body.

A lot of people don’t know what they want or they want much less than they deserve.

All addictions have one thing in common – they numb you out to what is happening in the moment.

If your day is full of little mean, dark thoughts, is it any wonder you feel crabby? Maybe it’s because you let your mind run wild like a dog putting its nose into garbage everywhere.

Living with integrity means… behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.

Passion is not a quality that is foreign to you. It is not a characteristic that some people are born with and some must do without. To be passionate is as natural to you as breathing, as natural as being alive. It is the source of who you are.

Your passion is your true power. The more you discover and express your passion for life, the more irresistible you will become to others.

He pays for his social ease with what used to be called his soul – his discriminations, his uniqueness, his psychic energy, his self.

Mass democracy, mass morality and the mass media thrive independently of the individual, who joins them only at the cost of at least a partial perversion of his instincts and insights.

There are three creativities: creativity in technology, in product planning, and in marketing.

The Japanese see self-assertion as immoral and self- sacrifice as the sensible course to take in life.

When we see beyond self, we no longer cling to happiness. And when we stop clinging, we can begin to be happy.

To know existence as this flow, empty of lasting pleasure, void of self, is to find that which is stable and free of suffering, to find true peace in the world.

I do not condemn any personal choices for intimate relationships. Love is love.

One man watches a river flow by. If he does not wish it to flow, to change ceaselessly in accord with its nature, he will suffer great pain.