“In order to experience everyday spirituality, we need to remember that we are spiritual beings spending some time in a human body.”

in all codependent relationships, the rescuer needs the victim as much as the victim needs the rescuer.

When you live with constant gratitude, your life will become a living prayer.

To succeed, you have to do something and be very bad at it for a while. You have to look bad before you can look really good.

When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship.

One of the most courageous things we do is change. If everyone says you’re wonderful every time you wear a red dress, and you change to yellow, that takes courage.

If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.

They’re basically moments in which you’re in touch with the meaning of life, when your relationship to the rest of the universe makes sense.

If you don’t develop your skill at enjoying what you have, you won’t be any happier when you get more.

The moment in between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.

Silence has a regenerative power of its own. It is always sacred. It always returns you home.

when your field is architecture, you go visit the great cathedrals of the world. My field was relationships. I got married many times. I was practicing. I didn’t date much; I just would get married. I thought, why waste time?

A lot of people don’t know what they want or they want much less than they deserve.

All addictions have one thing in common – they numb you out to what is happening in the moment.

If your day is full of little mean, dark thoughts, is it any wonder you feel crabby? Maybe it’s because you let your mind run wild like a dog putting its nose into garbage everywhere.

Living with integrity means… behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.

Passion is not a quality that is foreign to you. It is not a characteristic that some people are born with and some must do without. To be passionate is as natural to you as breathing, as natural as being alive. It is the source of who you are.

In order to become more influential with those who are resistant to our point of view, we must be willing to start with what is influencing them.

But when you have order, you don’t need Gods. When everything is well ordered and disciplined then nothing is unexpected.

In order to play and write, it’s unique – you either do one or the other.

History is the fiction we invent to persuade ourselves that events are knowable and that life has order and direction. That’s why events are always reinterpreted when values change.

You look at the states [Barack] Obama won and wonder, well, where would Hillary Clinton have a problem and where does Donald Trump have problems?

Except for our higher order of minds we are like the little moles under the earth carrying out blindly the work of digging, thinking our own dark passage-ways constitute all there is to the world.

Too often the revolutionary is the man who must create order in the chaos left by failed conservatives.

The direct consequence is that we have to fight with each other in order to survive.