“The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make on your wedding day, and over and over again and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband.”

in all codependent relationships, the rescuer needs the victim as much as the victim needs the rescuer.

When you live with constant gratitude, your life will become a living prayer.

To succeed, you have to do something and be very bad at it for a while. You have to look bad before you can look really good.

When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship.

One of the most courageous things we do is change. If everyone says you’re wonderful every time you wear a red dress, and you change to yellow, that takes courage.

If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.

They’re basically moments in which you’re in touch with the meaning of life, when your relationship to the rest of the universe makes sense.

If you don’t develop your skill at enjoying what you have, you won’t be any happier when you get more.

The moment in between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.

Silence has a regenerative power of its own. It is always sacred. It always returns you home.

when your field is architecture, you go visit the great cathedrals of the world. My field was relationships. I got married many times. I was practicing. I didn’t date much; I just would get married. I thought, why waste time?

In order to experience everyday spirituality, we need to remember that we are spiritual beings spending some time in a human body.

A lot of people don’t know what they want or they want much less than they deserve.

All addictions have one thing in common – they numb you out to what is happening in the moment.

If your day is full of little mean, dark thoughts, is it any wonder you feel crabby? Maybe it’s because you let your mind run wild like a dog putting its nose into garbage everywhere.

Living with integrity means… behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.