We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.
BRENDA SHOSHANNADo not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.
More Brenda Shoshanna Quotes
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Don’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
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The more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.
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A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
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It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive.
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Fear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.
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Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
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The sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.
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Be honest and simple. As you keep track all week long, you’ll be amazed at what claims your attention, what you give your precious life force to.
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Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.
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Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you ‘should’ become. Find out who you are right now.
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This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
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What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.
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When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide.
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In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.
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Consider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? Write it down. Do not judge your answers.
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