We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWe calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAChange is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAFrom the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).
BRENDA SHOSHANNAThe sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAFear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAIf one’s sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAIt is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWhen we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAIn a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAThis is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWhat we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.
BRENDA SHOSHANNARelying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
BRENDA SHOSHANNADon’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAour joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?
BRENDA SHOSHANNAZen practice asks you not to worry about who you ‘should’ become. Find out who you are right now.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWhen we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide.
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