It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAFear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.
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Now today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.
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When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide.
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our joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?
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Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
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A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
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Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
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Consider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? Write it down. Do not judge your answers.
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What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.
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When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are.
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This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
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If one’s sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.
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In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.
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From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).
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We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.
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Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.
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