Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
BRENDA SHOSHANNAWho you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.
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Don’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
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The sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.
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Fear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.
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Be honest and simple. As you keep track all week long, you’ll be amazed at what claims your attention, what you give your precious life force to.
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From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).
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Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.
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In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.
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A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we’re headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.
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We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply.
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When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are.
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Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.
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Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.
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If one’s sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.
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When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide.
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Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you ‘should’ become. Find out who you are right now.
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