to ask for anything of consequence from friends who cannot refuse is uncivilized.

What harm is there in dreaming, if it eases pain? What good is reality, if it blots out hope? Can a man’s mind be washed without bleaching his soul?
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Dream Pain Reality
Nothing fruitful ever comes when plants are forced to flower in the wrong season.
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Flower Plant Time
Principles have a way of yielding to power.
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Power Principles Way Yielding
If mortals wait until the gods remake the world to their liking to be happy, they are already in hell.
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Hell Waiting World
prophecies do not alter fate, only confirm it.
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Confirm Fate Prophecy
Like most Chinese, I am basically a fatalist – too sophisticated for religion and too superstitious to deny the gods.
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Chinese Religion Sophisticated
The young see what they wish to see. The old see what they do not wish.
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Age Wish Youth
to ask for anything of consequence from friends who cannot refuse is uncivilized.
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Favors Refuse Uncivilized
In yielding we are like the water, by nature placid, conforming to the hollow of the smallest hand; in time, shaping even the mountains to its will. Thus we keep duty and honor. We cherish clan and civilization. We are Chinese.
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Civilization Hands Water
you must not use wood to put out the fire.
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Fire Use Woods
A secret, like a chore, always seems to lead to another, one even more troublesome than the first.
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Firsts Secret

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