“in all codependent relationships, the rescuer needs the victim as much as the victim needs the rescuer.”

A wise word is more rare than the green emerald, and one can find the word of wisdom even amongst the slave girls making grain.

I believe tears are holy, because they show us that the ice of our heart is melting.

Only when your consciousness is totally focused on the moment you are in can you receive whatever gift, lesson, or delight that moment has to offer.

Love makes every space sacred and every moment meaningful . . .

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.

The greatest gift you and your partner can give your children is the example of an intimate, healthy, and loving relationship.

It is easy to be mindless in America, because dreaming of and living for a better tomorrow is the American way. … The problem is, in the second half of the twentieth century, we have gotten so good at living for tomorrow that most of us spend very little time in the present.

Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.

Men are just as sensitive, and in some ways more sensitive, than women are.

At the end of our time on earth, if we have lived fully, we will not be able to say, ‘I was always happy.’ Hopefully, we will be able to say, ‘I have experienced a lifetime of real moments, and many of them were happy moments.’

The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.

Temporary feelings of regret are a normal part of the mourning process. This helps us retrieve our lost dreams. If we hold on to regret, we risk trapping ourselves in a prison of unrealized dreams from which it is difficult to escape.

I have experienced a lifetime of real moments, and many of them were happy moments.

The obstacles in our path are not blocking us-they are redirecting us. Their purpose is not to interfere with our happiness; it is to point us toward new routes to our happiness, new possibilities, new doorways.

Love is the magician of the universe. It creates everything out of nothing.

No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.