People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
BARBARA DEMINGI learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
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Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.
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there is clearly a kind of anger that is healthy. It is the concentration of one’s whole being in the determination: this must change.
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Our task, of course, is to transmute the anger that is affliction into the anger that is determination to bring about change. I think, in fact, that one could give that as a definition of revolution.
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I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
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People may find it more comfortable to listen to us if we equivocate, but in the long run only words that discomfort them are going to change our situation.
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Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
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It is one thing to be able to state the price the antagonist paid, another to be able to count you own real gains.
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A liberation movement that is nonviolent sets the oppressor free as well as the oppressed.
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A great many of us must move from words to acts – from words of dissent to acts of disobedience.
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Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
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The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
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We cannot live without our lives
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Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.
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To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
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Vengeance is not the point: change is.
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