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I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.

Barbara Deming

Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.
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Change Mind People
This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.
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Argument Heart Pressure
We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
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Differences Justice Voice
Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
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Men Moving Tactic
The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
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Diversity Peace Real
All prisons that have existed in our society to date put people away as no human being should ever be put away.
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Our People Prison Society
there is clearly a kind of anger that is healthy. It is the concentration of one’s whole being in the determination: this must change.
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Anger Determination Healthy
Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
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Happen Live Moment Place Time
To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
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Need Speak Violent
Vengeance is not the point: change is.
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Change Point Vengeanc
We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.
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Balance Believe Name
People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
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Attack Need People Rationalization
Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.
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Pulse Spiritual Stranger
I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.
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Always Deep Judgment Obiient Sense
Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
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Another Courage Nerve Surely
After the revolution, it might very well remain necessary to place people where they could not do harm to others. But the one under restraint should be cut off from the rest of society as little as possible.
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Cutting Harm Little People Revolution

I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.

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I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.

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