Barbara Deming on balance
Barbara Deming34 quotes“We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.”
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The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming A liberation movement that is nonviolent sets the oppressor free as well as the oppressed.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one’s fears.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming We cannot live without our lives
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming There should be no censorship of mail.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone – by trying to act it out.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming there is clearly a kind of anger that is healthy. It is the concentration of one’s whole being in the determination: this must change.
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I saw that all aspects of my life had been pulling me out of balance because I hadn’t perceived them as part of a “whole,” or the totality that was “me.”
Brenda StrongBrenda Strong Even if lives did hang in the balance, it would depend on whose they were.
Bill WattersonBill Watterson Maintaining spirituality and humanism are the keys to success. Its a balance.
Bikram ChoudhuryBikram Choudhury The key to finding a happy balance in modern lives is simplicity.
Sogyal RinpocheSogyal Rinpoche A resilient, efficient system needs to be diverse and interconnected. On the other hand, diversity and interconnectivity decrease efficiency. Therefore, the key is an appropriate balance between efficiency and resilience.
Bernard LietaerBernard Lietaer According to new research emerging from many quarters that our continued devotion to growth above all is, on balance, making our lives worse, both collectively and individually
Bill McKibbenBill McKibben You can have a healthy fossil-fuel balance sheet, or a relatively healthy planet
Bill McKibbenBill McKibben I balance it all by being extremely organized, and I am a very efficient delegator.
Bethenny FrankelBethenny Frankel
